People come and go, and that’s ok
I don’t know but today scenes from my childhood were back in my mind. One situation popped up… I was a very possessive girl. I have had two friends, a boy and a girl. We were usually together at school, chatting, and playing all around.
But, since nothing is forever, eventually our friendship ended. First, the boy went to another school and the girl start to be friends with new girls. You know, each year there are new people in the class, so, eventually new friendships starts, while others seems to fade.
It was hard for me seeing her laugh and envolve with other girls, it was painful. One day, one of her new friends ask me to borrow my scissors to her. I did it. But she was very lazy using that, I was waiting for my mom to catch me. I say to her to go faster (probably in an angry way). My ex-friend, you will understand why, got angry to me. She have said that I was being very rude. We yell to each other and she said that our friendship was over.
That hurt!
Naturally, I got closer to other girls. But still that was a lesson to learn, I’ve been dealing with similar situations since then. And I am not talking specifically about people, but also about job opportunities and so on.
Possessiveness, enviousness, and high expectations about life is a great recipe for a big emotional disaster. Of course that are lucky people out there, but the majority do have to deal with all of that.
Nothing is permanent. Not even a permanent marker is, since an alcoholic liquid can dissolve its color. It doesn’t matter how long something will last, but eventually it will get to the end. And don’t get sad! How could you get a better job or entrepreneur opportunity if you haven’t left your first job?
That things is to learn to deal with those crazy emotions that seems to be inappropriate. If it does not suits you, do not wear it. Easy to say! Since life is a journey, battle emotions is in our tasks. I am not saying for you not to feel it, because you can feel a lot of emotions. But, learn to differentiate what is fine and what is a mess, is going to avoid wrong decisions in your path.
Who says that ‘dumb’ feelings is just for children? It is not the years, but the choices. We are daily learning, making mistakes, and having emotions. It’s part of our nature. In order to deal with those beasts inside us, we must to accept life facts. One of the biggest differences between adults and children, is how each one see the world. That’s why adults are called sometimes as immature, simply because they are acting like they’re seeing that world by a child’s perspective.
You have the right to be immature and make mistakes. But right away, remember all your learning and applicate in your life. Intelligence is not just know Math or grammar, but face the reality instead of leaving an illusionary world. You can call it ‘emotional intelligence’.
No one is yours. People eventually will get tired of you if you don’t let them have their life. Hold too much a bird can break its wings. Open your palms can permit the bird go to away from you, but open your hands in order to it pause shows it that you wanted it to stay, but if it want to go it’s also ok.
It is a training, like body exercises. As time passes by, you will get better at this.
